Be soft and cool like water. So, you can adjust anywhere in life.
Be hard and attractive like Diamond. So, no one can play with your emotions.

A Memo from a Child to a Parent

Don't spoil me. I know quite well that I ought not to have all I ask for, I'm only testing you.

Don't be afraid to be firm with me. I prefer it, it makes me feel secure.

Don't let me form bad habits. I have to rely on you to detect them in a early stage.

Don't make me feel smaller then I am. It only makes me behave stupidly "big"

Don't correct me in front of people, if you can help it. I`ll take much more notice if you talk quietly with me in private.

Don't make me feel that my mistakes are sins. It upsets my sense of values.

Don't protect me from consequences. I need to learn the painful way sometimes.

Don't be too upset when I say "I hate you". Sometimes it isn't you I hate but your power over me.

Don`t take too much notice of my ailments. Sometimes they get me attention I don't need.

Don`t nag. If you do, I shall have to protect myself by being deaf.

Don`t forget that I cannot explain myself as well as I should like. That's why I am not always accurate.

Don`t put me off when I ask questions. If you do you'll find that I stop asking and seek my information elsewhere.

Don`t be inconsistent. That completely confuses me and makes me lose faith in you.

Don`t tell me my fears are silly. They are terribly real and you can do much to reassure me if you try to understand.

Don`t ever suggest that you are perfect or infallible. It gives me too great a shock when I discover that your neither.

Don`t ever think that it is beneath your dignity to apologize to me. An honest apology makes me surprisingly warm towards you.

Don`t forget I love experimenting. I couldn't get along without it, so please put up with it.

Don`t forget how quickly I am growing up. It must be difficult for you to keep pace with me, but please try to.

Don`t forget that I don't thrive without lots of love and understanding, but I don't need to tell you that do I?

The Positive Side Of Life

Living on Earth is expensive,

but it does include a free trip around the sun every year.

How long a minute is depends on what side of the

bathroom door you're on.

Birthdays are good for you;

the more you have,

the longer you live.

Happiness comes through doors you

didn't even know you left open.

Ever notice that the people who are late are often much jollier

than the people who have to wait for them?

Most of us go to our grave

with our music still inside of us.

If Walmart is lowering prices every day,

how come nothing is free yet?

You may be only one person in the world,

but you may also be the world to one person.

Some mistakes are too much fun

to only make once.

Don't cry because it's over;

smile because it happened.

We could learn a lot from crayons:

some are sharp, some are pretty,

some are dull, some have weird names,

and all are different colors....

but they all exist very nicely in the same box.

A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.

BEFORE I WAS A MOM

 Before I was a Mom - I made and ate hot meals. I had unstained clothing. I had quiet conversations on the phone.

Before I was a Mom - I slept as late as I wanted and never worried about how late I got into bed. I brushed my hair and my teeth everyday.

Before I was a Mom - I didn't worry whether or not my plants were poisonous. I never thought about immunizations.

Before I was a Mom - I had never been puked on, wet on, spit on, chewed on, or pinched by tiny fingers.

Before I was a Mom - I had complete control over my thoughts, my body, my mind. I slept all night.

Before I was a Mom - I never held down a screaming child so that doctors could do tests, or give shots. I never looked into teary eyes and cried. I never got gloriously happy over a simple grin. I never sat up late hours at night watching a baby sleep.

Before I was a Mom - I never held a sleeping baby just because I didn't want to put it down. I never felt my heart break into a million pieces when I could not stop the hurt. I never knew that something so small could affect my life so much. I never knew that I could love someone so much. I never knew I would love being a Mom.

Before I was a Mom - I didn't know the feeling of having my heart outside my body. I didn't know how special it could feel to feed a hungry baby. I didn't know that bond between a Mother and her child. I didn't know that something so small could make me feel so important.

Before I was a Mom - I had never gotten up every ten minutes, in the middle of the night, to make sure that all was okay. I had never known the warmth, the joy, the love, the heartache, the wonderfulness, or the satisfaction of being a Mom. I didn't know I was capable of feeling so much, before I was a Mom.

-- Author Unknown

That is the first letter he did not read in his Gulf life

Dear Father & mother : Today I am completetd 5 years in the Gulf. I am decided to come at home next month. Within this 5 years, I have zero balance apart from clear out my visa expenses and availed one vacation before. Upon this vacation, I dont like to return Gulf. I have sound health to do any manual job at home country. Let me know your suggestion, Yours loving YYYYY.


Dear YYYYY, father writing : Received your letter and very happy to know about your vacation. Rest will continue your mother. Dear son, Do you know about the condition of our house? Rainy season, Nobody can to stay inside the house. Repair and maintence is very expensive with this old wooden items, All are suggesting to prefer a concrete house. Without home, do you know, there is no alternative. If you dicided to stop Gulf, can you do this with your limited income?. I am just reminding this, you can decide what you like. Yours loving mother.


Dear Mother, Now I am completed 10 years at this desert. I like to come home next month. Within these period, we rebuilt our house, and I completed all the related loans. Now I am planning to settle home and expecting to meet our day to day expenses by Taxi driving. I already fedup with this desert life. I wants to live with my kids. Let me know your suggestions. Yours loving YYYYY.


Dear YYYYY, Received your letter which is very regrettable when I read. My son started to suffer for us at his childhood. But one more thing I reminding you. Your sister Zainaba is aged more than 20. Did you have any arrangement or plan to get her marry. I have only one ambition, that is to die after her marriage. Dont feel bad, I am not passing any burden to you, you can decide yourself. Yours loving Mother


Dear Mother and Zuhara (wife), Now I am completed 14 years at this January. I fed up with this Gulf life. I can not continue more here. I am deciding to cancel my Visa. Within the last four years, we could arrange the marriage of Zainaba, which was done well with the help of Allah higher than our expectation, and paid out all expenses related to her marriage. Also settled my other loans too. Now I am deciding to settle at home and start any job like light driving or similar. I can not do any heavy work, because I have abnormal BP and Sugar. If I continue here, I am forced to pay all my salary for medical expenses, so it is better to continue any Unani treatement at home. Yours YYYYY.


Dear YYYYY, I shed much tears after reading your letter. Anyhow, my son, you dont go back to Gulf any more. But Zuhra (wife) wants to write something. Dear my sweet, after our marriage, I am not requested anything from you, but now I am forced to ask something. After marriage of your brother ZZZ, your mother is totally against me. Now your mother is depeding his wife for everything. Also I heard, your mother is planning to give this house to your brother. If any dispute arises, where can we go with our kids. If you are dicided to settle home, can you possible to make a house for our own. Do you know the price of steel and Cement and labour charges, which is not affordable. I am just expressing my anxious, you can decide yourseff. Yours loving Zuhara.


Dear Zuhara, Now I am completed 19 years at my gulf life. Within this last four years, we built a new house with my effort which is higher than your expectation. Now I have no balance, except the retirement benefit from the compnay, i.e my final settlement around SR 25000/- Only that is my net balance. Anyhow turning back, I have satisfaction, I could done something for others. From now, I can not continue here. Last 19 years, I could not understand what is a family life. Now I am deciding to settle home and I wants to live with you and children. This month last, I am retiring from my job, see you face to face, yours loving YYYYY.


Dear my sweet loving: After reading your letter, I am very happy to know about your dicision to discontinue the gulf life even you are late. But our son requested me to write one thing to you. He like to join Engineering course. He got an admission Card from Amritha Auto Engineering college, Coimbatore . First year needs to pay 4 Lakhs (SR 40000/-) then each year 3 lakhs each. No need to pay cash down at one stroke, they agreed instalment payment. Students learnijang there are all expartiates sons. Fist instalment must pay on or before this 30th. Expecting your reply soon, Yours loving Zuhra.


He spent a sum more for the education of his son and to get marry his daughter, then now he completed 27 years. Now he is on the way to the Airport with his ultimate balance of Blood Sugar, Blood pressure, back pain and ulcer. On the way incidentlly, he noticed a letter in his pocket , which he received from home, not opened yet. That is the first letter he did not read in his Gulf life.

A MOTHERS LOVE...

A little boy came up to his mother in the kitchen one evening while she was fixing supper, and handed her a piece of paper that he had been writing on. After his Mom dried her hands on an apron, she read it, and this is what it said:

·         For cutting the grass: $5..00

·         For cleaning up my room this week: $1.00

·         For going to the store for you: $.50

·         Baby-sitting my kid brother while you went shopping: $.25

·         Taking out the garbage: $1.00

·         For getting a good report card: $5.00

·         For cleaning up and raking the yard: $2.00

·         Total owed: $14.75

Well, his mother looked at him standing there, and the boy could see the memories flashing through her mind. She picked up the pen, turned over the paper he'd written on, and this is what she wrote:

·         For the nine months I carried you while you were growing inside me: No Charge

·         For all the nights that I've sat up with you, doctored and prayed for you: No Charge

·         For all the trying times, and all the tears that you've caused through the years: No Charge

·         For all the nights that were filled with dread, and for the worries I knew were ahead: No Charge

·         For the toys, food, clothes, and even wiping your nose: No Charge

·         Son, when you add it up, the cost of my love is: No Charge.

When the boy finished reading what his mother had written, there were big tears in his eyes, and he looked straight at his mother and said, "Mom, I sure do love you." And then he took the pen and in great big letters he wrote: "PAID IN FULL".

You will never know how much your parents worth till you become a parent. Be a giver not an asker, especially with your parents. there is a lot to give, besides money. Advice: IF your mom is alive and close to you, give her a big kiss and ask her for forgiveness.

If she is far away, call her. If she passed away, pray for her.

Handling The Troublesome Mind

A Buddhist story about freeing oneself from the tyranny of thoughts, paving way for a silent mind.

A short story about leading one from the mind to the no mind, a state of eternal peace.

Gautama Buddha one day asked one of his disciples to beg alms from a certain household and report to him at dusk. The monk returned to the master as per his command only to let him know that he would not beg for alms in that particular house again.

When pressed for the reason, the monk answered, " I savoured the delicious food served and I suddenly felt an urge to eat something sweet. The lady of the house offered me a sweet dish. I then felt like sleeping and the lady immediately asked me to rest for a while. I was surprised by her ability to read my thoughts that I asked how she knew of my desires?"

"The lady replied, 'Witnessing my thoughts, my mind has become silent now that I can now see other thoughts as well"

The monk continued to Buddha, " Looking at her I had sexual thoughts also and now I am embarrassed to see her again for alms as she would have read my sensual desire as well.

So I do not want to visit her house for alms"

The Buddha said that the monk ought to go to the particular house for alms again. He advised, "This time you will go as a changed person. Just be aware of your thoughts, every bite of your food and every step that you take. You will just have to watch every thought that arises, but do not co-operate with it .

Disassociate with it and do not analyze it. No thought is yours, they come from outside!"

The monk did as advised by Gautama Buddha. He remained a mere witness to his thoughts and there was no co-operation from his end. There was a change within him, an inner peace, though the world continued to remain the same.