1. Do Not Interfere In Others' Business Unless Asked.
Most
of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others'
affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our
way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do
not conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the right direction, our direction. This thinking
denies the existence of individuality and consequently the existence
of God.. God has created each one of us in a unique way. No two human
beings can think or act in exactly the same way. All men or women act
the way they do because God within them prompts them that way. Mind your own business and you will keep your peace.
2. Forgive And Forget:
This
is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often develop ill
feelings inside our heart for the person who insults us or harms us. We
nurture grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep, development
of stomach ulcers, and high blood pressure.
This insult or injury was done once, but nourishing of grievance goes
on forever by constantly remembering it. Get over this bad habit. Life
is too short to waste in such trifles. Forgive,20Forget, and march on.
Love flourishes in giving and forgiving.
3. Do Not Crave For Recognition:
This
world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without
selfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in power,
but no sooner than you are powerless, they will forget your achievement
and will start finding faults in you. Why do you wish to kill yourse
lf in striving for their recognition? Their recognition is not worth the
aggravation. Do your duties ethically and sincerely.
4. Do Not Be Jealous:
We
all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. You
know that you work harder than your colleagues in the office, but
sometimes they get promotions; you do not. You started a business
several years ago, but you are not as successful as your neighbor whose
business is only one year old.
There are several examples like these in everyday life. Should you be
jealous? No. Remember everybody's life is shaped by his/her destiny,
which has now become his/her reality. If you are destined to be rich,
nothing in the world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no one
can help you either. Nothing will be gained by blaming others for your
misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere; it will only take away
your peace of mind.
5. Change Yourself According To The Environment:
If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are you will fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment. As you do this, even the environment, which has been unfriendly to you, will mysteriously change and seem congenial and harmonious.
6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured:
This
is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Every day we
face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and accidents
that are beyond our control. If we cannot control them or change them,
we must learn to put up with these things. We must learn to endure them
cheerfully. Believe in yourself and you will gain in terms of patience,
inner strength and will power.
7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew:
This
maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often tend to take more
responsibilities than we are capable of carrying out. This is done to
satisfy our ego. Know your limitations. . Why take on additional loads
that may create more worries? You cannot gain peace of mind by expanding
your external activities. Reduce your material engagements and spend
time in prayer, introspection and meditation. This will reduce those
thoughts in your mind that make you restless. Uncluttered mind will
produce greater peace of mind.
8. Meditate Regularly:
Meditation
calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. This is the
highest state of peace of mind. Try and experience it yourself. If you meditate earnestly for half an hour everyday, your mind will tend to become peaceful during the remaining
twenty-three and half-hours. Your mind will not be easily disturbed as
it was before. You would benefit by gradually increasing the period of
daily meditation. You may think that this will interfere with your
daily work. On the contrary, this will increase your efficiency and you
will be able to produce better results in less time.
9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant:
An empty mind is the devil's workshop. All evil actions start in the vacant mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive,
something worthwhile. Actively follow a hobby. Do something that holds
your interest. You must decide what you value more: money or peace of
mind. Your hobby, like social work
or religious work, may not always earn you more money, but you will
have a sense of fulfillment and achievement. Even when you are resting
physically, occupy yourself in healthy reading or mental chanting of God's name.
10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret:
Do
not waste time in protracted wondering " Should I or shouldn't I?"
Days, weeks, months, and years may be wasted in that futile mental debating.
You can never plan enough because you can never anticipate all future
happenings. Value your time and do the things that need to be done. It
does not matter if you fail the first time. You can learn from your
mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead
to nothing. Learn from your mistakes, but do not brood over the past.
DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened was destined to happen only that way.
Why cry over spilt milk?
